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06-05-2021 02:37 PM
06-05-2021 02:37 PM
Is this workplace bullying? I am unsure... this will be a long post
Hi all
I will need to change names to keep it anonymous so here goes. I need some advice over how to process what happened 2 days ago at work.
The reason I think this has happened is because of the way I was treated last time, but also this time people were not talking to me. Only a few people did bother and then when that happened I was unaware if they were interested or they were merely keeping up appearances. Only the "out group" spoke to me at any length and more or less avoided me.
The out group at this work station are the ones who are treated like shite. The ones they underpay and overwork. The people who don't wanna say anything about the way they are treated because they are worried about how they will get treated. At about 5 mins before the end of the work day, one of the guys in the out group leaves - let's call him M - actually bothered to say goodbye to me as he walked off. To which I made a point of audibly saying "see you later M, good to see you again, take care".
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06-05-2021 04:08 PM
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Re: Is this workplace bullying? I am unsure... this will be a long post
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06-05-2021 04:17 PM
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Re: Is this workplace bullying? I am unsure... this will be a long post
not sure where the bullying was, even looking for it. @MDT you felt uncomfortable.
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06-05-2021 04:26 PM
06-05-2021 04:26 PM
Re: Is this workplace bullying? I am unsure... this will be a long post
It was a stunt pulled by the manager.
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06-05-2021 04:28 PM
06-05-2021 04:28 PM
Re: Is this workplace bullying? I am unsure... this will be a long post
well I didnt get that from reading it @MDT well make a complaint then
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06-05-2021 04:28 PM
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Re: Is this workplace bullying? I am unsure... this will be a long post
I have no words for that
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06-05-2021 04:28 PM
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Re: Is this workplace bullying? I am unsure... this will be a long post
It sounds like it made you extremely uncomfortable @MDT and I am sorry it made you feel that way.
Is there someone at work you could talk to about this?
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06-05-2021 04:31 PM
06-05-2021 04:31 PM
Re: Is this workplace bullying? I am unsure... this will be a long post
Last time I did that - well the above example indicates what happened.
I think i will send D an email. Once I know that I am never going back to that place. But I need to be sure about that first before deciding on it.
I have spoken to my friend about - the one who left - and i will see what she thinks
It's just totally a chaotic situation. One that could've been avoided entirely had tha manager just ignored it and got on with her job.
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06-05-2021 04:37 PM
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Re: Is this workplace bullying? I am unsure... this will be a long post
Perhaps speaking to your friend might help work out what to do from here @MDT
I hope for your sake that you are able to resolve it and have a freindly and supportive workplace. We all deserve that.
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06-05-2021 04:50 PM
06-05-2021 04:50 PM
Re: Is this workplace bullying? I am unsure... this will be a long post
@MDT Is what you wrote in the email true? There's a lot of dickheads in workplaces, I mean if they get called out on it, that gets a high five from me. I used to work in a similar environment, and while I tend to be the kind of person that either
a) doesnt give a shit what other people say
or,
b) tells them to go eff themselves ((not super helpful at work, but have done it out of defence))
If they're the kind of people that are still gossiping about sh*t from a year ago--and seemingly haven't given a thought to how someone who has been through a shitty time might take their gossipy crap, then they're not good people.
If it's something you're wanting to address, the way I'd go about it is making a time with "D" to discuss what happened in the past and what can be done now so you can all find a way to move forward.
2 things could happen: Either "D" addresses the issue and appreciates the effort you've made in coming forward. Or, more likely, nothing changes. But having addressed the issue with "D" already will give you cause to take further action if necessary.
Speaking from personal experience, I had an issue (or 2) with my old dept. manager. I tried to raise it with them, to no avail. When it got bad, I wound up going to her manager. He was a lot more supportive and set up a meeting with her (despite me pleading with him not to) and he said I wasn't the first person to raise an issue with him about her behaviour. She got a talking to and after that she became a lot more pleasant to me (at least to my face anyway).
If you know of other staff who may be willing to join you in discussing it as a group, might be a good idea. But start with small steps first and see how it pans out.
I know this isn't always easy, but we can't control how anyone else behaves. All we can do is choose how we respond.
I hope this helps, and sorry you're having a rough time at work, makes life pretty sh*t hey?